I had a friend tell me he thought it was easier for me to find dates because I’m a girl.
No. No it is not. Why? Because women have it just as hard, if not harder. We are compared to supermodels and porn stars and just about every male fantasy out there. Sure, we do the same thing to men. Its a cycle, its the way the world we grew up in shaped our thinking. Sad, but it’s the truth. Granted, in recent years we have come to a point where we as humans go after what we find attractive which isn’t the same as it was before. Which is good and bad.
However, I am finding it very hard to find someone to date, to get to know. I, like many women, have SERIOUS self confidence issues. Sure, some of you look at me and say “She’s cute” or “She’s beautiful, why does she have confidence issues?” Because I don’t see myself like everyone else does. I don’t even think I am seen at all by people. Let me give you an example:
I’m on an online dating site. There has been some men who have expressed an interest in me, however I do not share that same attraction for them. Now I know that this shouldn’t effect me when it happens to me. But I read this profile which was looking for this in a “perfect match”:
“Hard to say but ummm…a romantic enthusiast hahaha …Affectionate, passionate …nerdy girls are a plus, & a side note girls with glasses are very sexi to me don’t ask cause idk why I just think so …someone thats themselves with me & not be worried…&who’s not afraid of a future”
That sounds like me to a T. I am a romantic, I’m very affectionate and passionate, I’m a nerd, and I have glasses. So I message this fellow. He was online at the time and checked out my profile and such. So I sent him my number, which I RARELY do unless I’m really interested… a short time later he logged off…
Maybe I’m reading too much into it, maybe not. Doesn’t matter, it’s things like this that makes me question myself, my attractiveness and if there’s something wrong with me. I’m seriously sitting here trying not to think those types of thoughts because they’d make me cry.
All I want is to be loved by someone. I want to be so attracted to someone that no one else can come into my vision. I want to be with someone that fits my dream, maybe I’m being shallow.. but aren’t we all in some way? What’s the point of dating someone you’re NOT attracted to just because they’re a “Nice guy” or just because there’s a view qualities that you’re looking for?
Yes, dating is hard for women as it is men. We aren’t all attractive to those we are attracted to.
Maybe I’m just not destined to be in love or to be loved by someone. I’m just not suppose to have a happy little family, a loving husband. I’m just a tool for those to use until they find their perfect piece. I’m like a sock without a mate.
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